Modern life is fragmented.

Rugged individualism, Cartesian dualism between work and life, and the economic incentives of time scarcity—among other pernicious forces—have shattered the mirror of our daily lives.

Pieces lie scattered, challenging us to make sense of how to reassemble them into a coherent structure. There is little integration or overlap between our various activities.

How hard is it now simply to catch up with a friend in the modern schedule of city life? Deep bonds, fortified through meaningful experiences and conversations, are slowly worn down by the waves of time and the inconvenience of regularly meeting one another. Catching up with a friend becomes a chore rather than a natural part of life's flow.

We need coherence.

While broader systemic changes could help fix our fragmented lives, I have at least one simple step forward to offer: invite your friends to do things you already need or want to do. Make connection effortless by integrating it into your everyday life.

I worked out with a friend today. More than anything, it was an excuse to spend time together. We both got in some healthy movement. Later, I had coffee with another friend while we took my dog for a walk. Being outside in the sun was good for us—and for the dog. It was something I needed to do anyway, so why not do it together?

This isn’t a new idea, but that’s part of the point. We don’t need the newest, shiniest, most expensive solution to our problems. Old, traditional, tried-and-true ways of living well are available to us. There is richness in simplicity. We can cultivate more community, love, and connection through small, intentional actions.

Here's my invitation: the next time you find yourself wanting more connection or feeling like there’s never enough time, ask yourself:
"Who can join me on my errands?"
"Who can be a part of my everyday routines?"

Then, invite them. You might be surprised by how fun it is to share even the most ordinary moments together.